We’ve all heard of “Baby Blues” but what about that feeling you get when your boyfriend has just popped the question, you've pinned a million pins to your Pinterest board, and then you meet with your wedding planner only to hear it’ll cost thousands of dollars over your budget to create. That feeling of sadness you feel because you won’t get what you really want is “Wedding Planning Blues”. The fear and anxiety that your wedding will be less than perfect is also wedding planning blues. You may go home feeling let down because you were ready to replicate that beautiful picture you found while googling “wedding ideas” or you were ready to jump into that DIY project not knowing it’ll take a hundred hours more than you have to give. Or, you want to have a rustic wedding filled with burlap, barrels, and tree stumps but your fiancé doesn’t understand the point and hates it. Maybe you’re the bride who really thinks less is more but you don’t want your guests to criticize you for having what they would call simple. So, how do you overcome wedding planning blues?
Design: Take a moment, step away from Pinterest and think about who you and your fiancé are as a couple. You are seeing the latest trends on Pinterest and thinking you have to have that to make your wedding day beautiful. Think about your story and what is special about the two of you. Each and every couple has a special story they can tell on their wedding day. Let your wedding day be a continuation of YOUR love story, not a reenactment of someone else’s. Meet with a wedding planner/designer who can listen to your story, pin point key moments and design a wedding that will have your guests telling you “This is SO YOU!” You never know, maybe you and your fiancé can set the next Pinterest wedding trend!
Budget: Wedding blogs, Pinterest, and magazines do a great job at showing you beautiful weddings but they don’t tell you how much money goes into those pretty pictures. Let’s be realistic, the average bride does not have hundreds of thousands of dollars to spend on their wedding day. Spend your money on elements of your wedding that will last forever. Create focal points throughout your day and focus more money on these areas. Have your planner come up with a design that not only tells your story but a design that doesn’t break the bank.
Overcome the Wedding Planning Blues by remembering to be yourself. This is your day and if you are afraid that guests will complain because you have cotton linens instead of silk embellished linens, they won’t! Your guests are there to celebrate a beautiful relationship. Don’t get discouraged because you feel like every idea you love, you can’t afford or don’t have time to make. Find a planner who can bring every idea to life no matter how much money you have. Planning your wedding should be a time of fun and excitement. Remember to tell YOUR story on your wedding day. Remember to be realistic. Remember your wedding is about love. Enjoy the ride.